the nice guy, romantic, gentleman, could he take care of me?

girls always want the romantic, they want to feel loved, special, always given attention to
but you know what the ugly truth is
nice guys goes unnoticed
all the time

its the jerks, the loud mouth, the jackass that get the attention, with the little effort and care t offer
and suddenly it is a challenge to get that particular one. darn it that one makes the impression..
tell me if this is not true..

scene 1,
total gentleman, pulls out chair, opens door, moderate with jokes, buys flowers, pluck flowers, calls and text to see if you're alright, always seems to be around or always making effort to be around when you need someone. all the better extream. all of a sudden, your mind starts telling you things against your gut feeling and you listen to what its saying, he is a? weirdo? stalker? freak?

scene 2,
Club, partying hard, busting moves, guys walks up and smiles, dances okay, 'enjoying' himself with your company and making it seems that if you're not there he would still be enjoying himself. barely acknowledging your presence, 'checks you out and keeps that million dollar smile' invites you back to his table introduces you to his friends, gets your number, maybe supprises you with a kiss, then you go home flattered and thinking about him only. he was your good time tonight, you were his 'pick-up' days go by and thoughts of him flashes every now and again.

what is wrong here? you can confuse the mind but not the heart. you see the mind thinks. it doesnt feel. thats the hearts job-to feel. and when you use your heart to think, thats when things get screwed/twisted, so what happens to most people is that they fail to see the nice person, rather they see what they want to see, what they perceive as the truth, reality.

FYI, books and 'counselors' all over knows the if you intend to 'pick-up' someone, dont be nice, be mean, not available, create in them a need for you, yearn for you.. etc etc..

so what is it that you really want in a partner? someone who teases and be littles' you? who when you call upon can't be count on? couldnt care more or less about you, your life, your family, your friends?

or someone who is a nice guy?

both can take care of you, question is the word 'care' is very subjective.
will he be able to honour you as a women? and later as a life partner, mother to child,

Or is he going to treat you as a pick-up? another girlfriend? An exprience? or worst a sex object.

I have 2 beautiful sisters, and a mother. I may not always agree with their point of view, but I love them, to shelter them as much as i could extend my wings. beyond that they would have to soar with their own confidence and self believe, understanding and trusting their surroundings and own judgements.

You women think for yourselves. love to all daughters, sisters and mothers,