the nice guy, romantic, gentleman, could he take care of me?

girls always want the romantic, they want to feel loved, special, always given attention to
but you know what the ugly truth is
nice guys goes unnoticed
all the time

its the jerks, the loud mouth, the jackass that get the attention, with the little effort and care t offer
and suddenly it is a challenge to get that particular one. darn it that one makes the impression..
tell me if this is not true..

scene 1,
total gentleman, pulls out chair, opens door, moderate with jokes, buys flowers, pluck flowers, calls and text to see if you're alright, always seems to be around or always making effort to be around when you need someone. all the better extream. all of a sudden, your mind starts telling you things against your gut feeling and you listen to what its saying, he is a? weirdo? stalker? freak?

scene 2,
Club, partying hard, busting moves, guys walks up and smiles, dances okay, 'enjoying' himself with your company and making it seems that if you're not there he would still be enjoying himself. barely acknowledging your presence, 'checks you out and keeps that million dollar smile' invites you back to his table introduces you to his friends, gets your number, maybe supprises you with a kiss, then you go home flattered and thinking about him only. he was your good time tonight, you were his 'pick-up' days go by and thoughts of him flashes every now and again.

what is wrong here? you can confuse the mind but not the heart. you see the mind thinks. it doesnt feel. thats the hearts job-to feel. and when you use your heart to think, thats when things get screwed/twisted, so what happens to most people is that they fail to see the nice person, rather they see what they want to see, what they perceive as the truth, reality.

FYI, books and 'counselors' all over knows the if you intend to 'pick-up' someone, dont be nice, be mean, not available, create in them a need for you, yearn for you.. etc etc..

so what is it that you really want in a partner? someone who teases and be littles' you? who when you call upon can't be count on? couldnt care more or less about you, your life, your family, your friends?

or someone who is a nice guy?

both can take care of you, question is the word 'care' is very subjective.
will he be able to honour you as a women? and later as a life partner, mother to child,

Or is he going to treat you as a pick-up? another girlfriend? An exprience? or worst a sex object.

I have 2 beautiful sisters, and a mother. I may not always agree with their point of view, but I love them, to shelter them as much as i could extend my wings. beyond that they would have to soar with their own confidence and self believe, understanding and trusting their surroundings and own judgements.

You women think for yourselves. love to all daughters, sisters and mothers,

woman

Let her hold you
Til' you know how she needs to be touched
You've gotta breathe her, really taste her
Til' you can feel her in your blood
An' when you can see your unborn children in her eyes
You know you really love a woman

To really love a woman, to understand her
You gotta know her deep inside
Hear every thought, see every dream
An' give her wings when she wants to fly

You've got to give her some faith, hold her tight
A little tenderness, you gotta treat her right
She will be there for you, takin' good care of you
You really gotta love your woman, ya
And when you find yourself lyin' helpless in her arms
You know you really love a woman

shortened from bryan adams 'have you ever really loved a woman'

a certain song that makes men seem lousy and women go 'there, why can't you be like that'
what about the other side of the coin? about those who never was given a chance to prove their worth? those who does everthing the song suggest, if only given the chance.
your crazyness drives me.. your partiness delights a smile. your cute and ditsyness.. sigh..

You want to be loved, You want to feel special, you're afraid to open up, you put reluctant efforts, or not even bothered. or maybe ingnorance IS bliss.

blocked

ever felt what its like looking from outside? let me put in perspectives, have you ever looked out just to realise someone is outside looking into your hall? what is with that person? what does he wants? FREAK! we label them all sorts. have you ever been though, the other side, wondering how nice is the life the person is having? or is she with good company? is she doing fine? what is she up to? can i help? how can i help? just to get shut out of the life of the person entirely? what is the meaning of subttle gestures?
people put up walls around themselves to 'protect' themselves. right. then how would you get to know a person behind walls? doesn't anyone belief in chance anymore? no? frustration knows no bounderies. then again what is it that cuts so deep and leaves no scar? like looking from behind a one way mirror with people barely noticing your presense, like it didnt matter, like you dont matter? i know for fact that everyone is beautiful and unique in God's eye, i've been lacking faith lately. faith in myself, faith in Him, faith in faith itself.
Glass walls and illusions, caught under a net of confusions and, and emotions. uncertainty has been a big part of my life, plan a seed of hope and 'hope' for it to blossom. i fear the pussm breaking out from within. i fear bitterness will actually start tasting sweet. that was rage. what at emo's end will find suthe? a name so charasmatic it jams thoughts uttering fumbling words of meaninglesse. so strong it creates a feeling that it freezes, warms, excites. cordinates lips to pull back both ends and broken peices of a pale soul to resurect. much as such is the command of that particular latin name- as unicorns to pergasus

only this might be a slightly blur one. with a case overly sensitive pergasus